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He's in Porn Addiction Recovery . . . but What About His Thoughts?
mbkastleman
  • Feb 17

He's in Porn Addiction Recovery . . . but What About His Thoughts?

Recently a woman reached out to me through my website with some very legitimate, intelligent, important questions. She's married to a man...
Why Would Your Husband Who Loves You, "Gaslight" You?!
mbkastleman
  • Feb 9

Why Would Your Husband Who Loves You, "Gaslight" You?!

"Gaslighting" is a term that is talked about a LOT in today's world. It is especially prevalent among men who struggle with pornography a...
In 2021, How can We be Emotionally Healthy as Individuals and Couples?
mbkastleman
  • Jan 9

In 2021, How can We be Emotionally Healthy as Individuals and Couples?

2020 was a TOUGH year!!! We should all be wearing t-shirts with the slogan—"I survived 2020!" But already, it appears that 2021 could e...
Forget "New Year's Resolutions"--they DON'T work!!! Try this instead.
mbkastleman
  • Jan 5

Forget "New Year's Resolutions"--they DON'T work!!! Try this instead.

Can you believe it—we're already into the first week of 2021! And how many of us have engaged in that old, traditional pastime of New Ye...
How to Find Recovery & Healing Serenity while also dealing with Family Dynamics during the Holidays.
mbkastleman
  • Dec 18, 2020

How to Find Recovery & Healing Serenity while also dealing with Family Dynamics during the Holidays.

We all know that during the Holidays, time with family can be both an opportunity AND a challenge! Depending on whether these interaction...
It is SO Easy to Get Off the "Recovery Rails" during the Holidays!
mbkastleman
  • Dec 15, 2020

It is SO Easy to Get Off the "Recovery Rails" during the Holidays!

How many times have you eaten a whole pumpkin pie, downed a full bottle of Martinelli's or binge-watched Net Flix literally all weekend w...
Preparing for and Managing Porn Addiction Triggers During the Holidays!
mbkastleman
  • Dec 13, 2020

Preparing for and Managing Porn Addiction Triggers During the Holidays!

The Holidays can be a time of HUGE EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS—both good and bad. In fact, the Holidays are really designed and intended to ignite...
When Marriage Expectations Collide with Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing.
mbkastleman
  • Dec 4, 2020

When Marriage Expectations Collide with Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing.

How do we balance our expectations for the mending of our marriage relationship with the ups and downs of recovery from porn addiction an...
Pride, Shame & Trauma—the Destructive Triad in Marriage
mbkastleman
  • Nov 18, 2020

Pride, Shame & Trauma—the Destructive Triad in Marriage

In my own addiction, recovery and healing, and working with people across the globe, I have come to recognize and understand a "destructi...
When we say, "Man Up"—What does that REALLY Mean?
mbkastleman
  • Nov 17, 2020

When we say, "Man Up"—What does that REALLY Mean?

The term "man-up" has many different meanings in our society today. If for the meaning you look to Hollywood, the mainstream media, porno...
We Can Get "Stuck" in Betrayal Trauma Pain! How Can we Heal and Move Forward?
mbkastleman
  • Nov 17, 2020

We Can Get "Stuck" in Betrayal Trauma Pain! How Can we Heal and Move Forward?

Because of my own decades of addiction, my wife suffered a great deal of Betrayal Trauma. There's a very special place in my heart for al...
Do "Sexual Entitlement" and a Healthy Marriage go together?
mbkastleman
  • Oct 28, 2020

Do "Sexual Entitlement" and a Healthy Marriage go together?

Recently, a friend asked me a question that I've been asked my many women over the years. She prefaced the question with something like: ...
With Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing—Honesty is EVERYTHING!
mbkastleman
  • Oct 23, 2020

With Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing—Honesty is EVERYTHING!

LYING was a HUGE part of my addiction years and early recovery. There were many "layers" to my lies. Some were obvious, but many were at ...
What "Choices" do you have in Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma?
mbkastleman
  • Oct 23, 2020

What "Choices" do you have in Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma?

For much of my life, I lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "It is what it is," and "Thi...
In Porn Addiction or Betrayal Trauma—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?
mbkastleman
  • Oct 6, 2020

In Porn Addiction or Betrayal Trauma—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?

There can be a BIG difference between "religiosity" and "spirituality." When it's unhealthy, religiosity can create a significant WALL be...
If Porn Addiction is Under Control and Betrayal Trauma is Healing Well—are Boundaries Still Needed?
mbkastleman
  • Oct 3, 2020

If Porn Addiction is Under Control and Betrayal Trauma is Healing Well—are Boundaries Still Needed?

I have emphasized many times in these blog articles and constantly with my clients, just how critical HEALTHY BOUNDARIES are to porn addi...
I'm Not Sexually Attracted to My Spouse—Is Our Marriage Over?
mbkastleman
  • Oct 1, 2020

I'm Not Sexually Attracted to My Spouse—Is Our Marriage Over?

Our Sexualized Culture Can Convince Us that "Sex" is Everything in a Marriage We live in a society that often shouts the message that "se...
Engage in Difficult Conversations to Enjoy TRUE CONNECTION!
mbkastleman
  • Sep 29, 2020

Engage in Difficult Conversations to Enjoy TRUE CONNECTION!

Contrary to popular beliefs, our most difficult conversations can be the MOST CONNECTING if we can learn HOW to use some simple principle...
If Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma have put your Marriage in Crisis—Can it be Saved?
mbkastleman
  • Sep 8, 2020

If Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma have put your Marriage in Crisis—Can it be Saved?

Porn addiction and Betrayal Trauma plunge a marriage into pain and chaos! After years of "negative relationship patterns," we get to a ho...
Avoiding Pain will actually make your Addiction Worse and Keep You Stuck in Betrayal Trauma!
mbkastleman
  • Sep 1, 2020

Avoiding Pain will actually make your Addiction Worse and Keep You Stuck in Betrayal Trauma!

It's normal for all of us to try to avoid pain when we can—that tendency is built into the very structure of the human brain. However, wh...
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