Because of my own decades of addiction, my wife suffered a great deal of Betrayal Trauma. There's a very special place in my heart for...

Recently, a friend asked me a question that I've been asked my many women over the years. She prefaced the question with something like:...

LYING was a HUGE part of my addiction years and early recovery. There were many "layers" to my lies. Some were obvious, but many were at...

For much of my life, I lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "It is what it is," and...

There can be a BIG difference between "religiosity" and "spirituality." When it's unhealthy, religiosity can create a significant WALL...

I have emphasized many times in these blog articles and constantly with my clients, just how critical HEALTHY BOUNDARIES are to porn...

Porn addiction and Betrayal Trauma plunge a marriage into pain and chaos! After years of "negative relationship patterns," we get to a...

It's normal for all of us to try to avoid pain when we can—that tendency is built into the very structure of the human brain. However,...

By Divine Design we are built to feel natural, healthy attraction for other human beings. In fact, there is more real estate in the brain...

What happens when you face a "Pornography Addiction Relapse"? The Fallout of Relapse— For the Porn Addict: Hopelessness, shame,...

It's very easy to lose track of your own recovery from porn addiction and try to CONTROL your spouse's healing. To be successful in your...

Your husband's porn addiction can easily plunge you into the "Victim Trap"! In this confusing and hopeless place, it's virtually...

There are two big concerns that often occupy the thoughts of married men who are in recovery from porn and sex addiction— Can I ever...

For your marriage relationship to not only survive but most importantly THRIVE, you must have healthy "boundaries"! This is certainly...

Porn addiction can devastate a marriage! Yet, there IS healing after porn! In this process, CONFLICT is a given and is NOT the enemy!

A husband addicted to porn will often go to great lengths to keep his use hidden from his wife, including using "gaslighting."

When there's betrayal trauma in marriage due to one spouse's porn addiction, setting "sexual boundaries" is critical to the healing process.

Betrayal Trauma has a massive impact on a woman’s sense of self-esteem and worth: Personal inadequacy (physical, emotional and sexual)—“I’ll

You are NOT going crazy! The roller coaster ride of emotions you're feeling is normal.

Many who struggle with porn use believe that once they're married the problem will naturally go away. This is nearly never the case! Why?