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    We Can Get "Stuck" in Betrayal Trauma Pain! How Can we Heal and Move Forward?
    mbkastleman
    • Nov 17, 2020

    We Can Get "Stuck" in Betrayal Trauma Pain! How Can we Heal and Move Forward?

    Because of my own decades of addiction, my wife suffered a great deal of Betrayal Trauma. There's a very special place in my heart for...
    Do "Sexual Entitlement" and a Healthy Marriage go together?
    mbkastleman
    • Oct 28, 2020

    Do "Sexual Entitlement" and a Healthy Marriage go together?

    Recently, a friend asked me a question that I've been asked my many women over the years. She prefaced the question with something like:...
    With Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing—Honesty is EVERYTHING!
    mbkastleman
    • Oct 23, 2020

    With Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing—Honesty is EVERYTHING!

    LYING was a HUGE part of my addiction years and early recovery. There were many "layers" to my lies. Some were obvious, but many were at...
    What "Choices" do you have in Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma?
    mbkastleman
    • Oct 23, 2020

    What "Choices" do you have in Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma?

    For much of my life, I lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "It is what it is," and...
    In Porn Addiction or Betrayal Trauma—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?
    mbkastleman
    • Oct 6, 2020

    In Porn Addiction or Betrayal Trauma—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?

    There can be a BIG difference between "religiosity" and "spirituality." When it's unhealthy, religiosity can create a significant WALL...
    If Porn Addiction is Under Control and Betrayal Trauma is Healing Well—are Boundaries Still Needed?
    mbkastleman
    • Oct 3, 2020

    If Porn Addiction is Under Control and Betrayal Trauma is Healing Well—are Boundaries Still Needed?

    I have emphasized many times in these blog articles and constantly with my clients, just how critical HEALTHY BOUNDARIES are to porn...
    If Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma have put your Marriage in Crisis—Can it be Saved?
    mbkastleman
    • Sep 8, 2020

    If Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma have put your Marriage in Crisis—Can it be Saved?

    Porn addiction and Betrayal Trauma plunge a marriage into pain and chaos! After years of "negative relationship patterns," we get to a...
    Avoiding Pain will actually make your Addiction Worse and Keep You Stuck in Betrayal Trauma!
    mbkastleman
    • Sep 1, 2020

    Avoiding Pain will actually make your Addiction Worse and Keep You Stuck in Betrayal Trauma!

    It's normal for all of us to try to avoid pain when we can—that tendency is built into the very structure of the human brain. However,...
    The Difference Between "Healthy Attraction" and "Porn/Sex Addiction"
    mbkastleman
    • Aug 27, 2020

    The Difference Between "Healthy Attraction" and "Porn/Sex Addiction"

    By Divine Design we are built to feel natural, healthy attraction for other human beings. In fact, there is more real estate in the brain...
    Pornography Addiction Relapse—the Impact on Your Marriage and Breaking Free from the "Relapse Cycle"
    mbkastleman
    • Aug 18, 2020

    Pornography Addiction Relapse—the Impact on Your Marriage and Breaking Free from the "Relapse Cycle"

    What happens when you face a "Pornography Addiction Relapse"? The Fallout of Relapse— For the Porn Addict: Hopelessness, shame,...
    Stop Being a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Let Her Focus on Healing from Betrayal Trauma!
    mbkastleman
    • Aug 11, 2020

    Stop Being a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Let Her Focus on Healing from Betrayal Trauma!

    It's very easy to lose track of your own recovery from porn addiction and try to CONTROL your spouse's healing. To be successful in your...
    Break Out of Being a "Victim" to His Porn Addiction!
    mbkastleman
    • Aug 10, 2020

    Break Out of Being a "Victim" to His Porn Addiction!

    Your husband's porn addiction can easily plunge you into the "Victim Trap"! In this confusing and hopeless place, it's virtually...
    Can I Regain My Wife's Trust? How Can I Dare to Trust Her?
    mbkastleman
    • Jul 28, 2020

    Can I Regain My Wife's Trust? How Can I Dare to Trust Her?

    There are two big concerns that often occupy the thoughts of married men who are in recovery from porn and sex addiction— Can I ever...
    Marriage Relationships with "Boundaries" LAST—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
    mbkastleman
    • Jul 14, 2020

    Marriage Relationships with "Boundaries" LAST—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma

    For your marriage relationship to not only survive but most importantly THRIVE, you must have healthy "boundaries"! This is certainly...
    Healing Your Marriage After Porn—Conflict is NOT the Enemy!
    mbkastleman
    • Feb 17, 2020

    Healing Your Marriage After Porn—Conflict is NOT the Enemy!

    Porn addiction can devastate a marriage! Yet, there IS healing after porn! In this process, CONFLICT is a given and is NOT the enemy!
    Is Your Porn Addicted Husband "Gaslighting" You?
    mbkastleman
    • Feb 16, 2020

    Is Your Porn Addicted Husband "Gaslighting" You?

    A husband addicted to porn will often go to great lengths to keep his use hidden from his wife, including using "gaslighting."
    His Porn Addiction and Her Betrayal Trauma—Part Three
    mbkastleman
    • Feb 5, 2020

    His Porn Addiction and Her Betrayal Trauma—Part Three

    When there's betrayal trauma in marriage due to one spouse's porn addiction, setting "sexual boundaries" is critical to the healing process.
    His Porn Addiction and her Betrayal Trauma—Part Two
    mbkastleman
    • Feb 4, 2020

    His Porn Addiction and her Betrayal Trauma—Part Two

    Betrayal Trauma has a massive impact on a woman’s sense of self-esteem and worth: Personal inadequacy (physical, emotional and sexual)—“I’ll
    His Porn Addiction and Her Betrayal Trauma—Part One
    mbkastleman
    • Jan 28, 2020

    His Porn Addiction and Her Betrayal Trauma—Part One

    You are NOT going crazy! The roller coaster ride of emotions you're feeling is normal.
    Does Great Sex with a Partner Cure Porn Addiction?
    mbkastleman
    • Jan 23, 2020

    Does Great Sex with a Partner Cure Porn Addiction?

    Many who struggle with porn use believe that once they're married the problem will naturally go away. This is nearly never the case! Why?
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