mbkastlemanNov 17, 2020When we say, "Man Up"—What does that REALLY Mean?The term "man-up" has many different meanings in our society today. If for the meaning you look to Hollywood, the mainstream media,...
mbkastlemanOct 23, 2020With Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing—Honesty is EVERYTHING!LYING was a HUGE part of my addiction years and early recovery. There were many "layers" to my lies. Some were obvious, but many were at...
mbkastlemanOct 23, 2020What "Choices" do you have in Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma?For much of my life, I lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "It is what it is," and...
mbkastlemanOct 6, 2020In Porn Addiction or Betrayal Trauma—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?There can be a BIG difference between "religiosity" and "spirituality." When it's unhealthy, religiosity can create a significant WALL...
mbkastlemanOct 3, 2020If Porn Addiction is Under Control and Betrayal Trauma is Healing Well—are Boundaries Still Needed?I have emphasized many times in these blog articles and constantly with my clients, just how critical HEALTHY BOUNDARIES are to porn...
mbkastlemanSep 8, 2020If Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma have put your Marriage in Crisis—Can it be Saved?Porn addiction and Betrayal Trauma plunge a marriage into pain and chaos! After years of "negative relationship patterns," we get to a...
mbkastlemanSep 1, 2020Avoiding Pain will actually make your Addiction Worse and Keep You Stuck in Betrayal Trauma!It's normal for all of us to try to avoid pain when we can—that tendency is built into the very structure of the human brain. However,...
mbkastlemanAug 27, 2020The Difference Between "Healthy Attraction" and "Porn/Sex Addiction"By Divine Design we are built to feel natural, healthy attraction for other human beings. In fact, there is more real estate in the brain...
mbkastlemanAug 18, 2020Pornography Addiction Relapse—the Impact on Your Marriage and Breaking Free from the "Relapse Cycle"What happens when you face a "Pornography Addiction Relapse"? The Fallout of Relapse— For the Porn Addict: Hopelessness, shame,...
mbkastlemanAug 11, 2020Stop Being a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Let Her Focus on Healing from Betrayal Trauma!It's very easy to lose track of your own recovery from porn addiction and try to CONTROL your spouse's healing. To be successful in your...
mbkastlemanAug 10, 2020Break Out of Being a "Victim" to His Porn Addiction!Your husband's porn addiction can easily plunge you into the "Victim Trap"! In this confusing and hopeless place, it's virtually...
mbkastlemanJul 28, 2020Can I Regain My Wife's Trust? How Can I Dare to Trust Her?There are two big concerns that often occupy the thoughts of married men who are in recovery from porn and sex addiction— Can I ever...
mbkastlemanJul 14, 2020Marriage Relationships with "Boundaries" LAST—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal TraumaFor your marriage relationship to not only survive but most importantly THRIVE, you must have healthy "boundaries"! This is certainly...
mbkastlemanFeb 19, 2020Porn Addiction and the "Funnel"—Why Do Good LDS Men Get Pulled into Porn?LDS men trapped in porn suffer immense SHAME! Why is this true and HOW can they break free from porn addiction?
mbkastlemanFeb 17, 2020Healing Your Marriage After Porn—Conflict is NOT the Enemy!Porn addiction can devastate a marriage! Yet, there IS healing after porn! In this process, CONFLICT is a given and is NOT the enemy!
mbkastlemanFeb 16, 2020Is Your Porn Addicted Husband "Gaslighting" You?A husband addicted to porn will often go to great lengths to keep his use hidden from his wife, including using "gaslighting."
mbkastlemanFeb 13, 2020Porn Use Can "Cripple" Your Willpower!Willpower alone does NOT overcome porn addiction! This is true because porn use "rewires" the brain. It's not about "will"—it's "SKILL."
mbkastlemanFeb 12, 2020Pornography Viewing is NOT as Private as You May Think!Porn addiction rewires the brain and a brain on porn doesn't want to be confused by the "facts." The facts are, is is NOT private!
mbkastlemanFeb 5, 2020His Porn Addiction and Her Betrayal Trauma—Part ThreeWhen there's betrayal trauma in marriage due to one spouse's porn addiction, setting "sexual boundaries" is critical to the healing process.
mbkastlemanFeb 4, 2020His Porn Addiction and her Betrayal Trauma—Part TwoBetrayal Trauma has a massive impact on a woman’s sense of self-esteem and worth: Personal inadequacy (physical, emotional and sexual)—“I’ll