When we say, "Man Up"—What does that REALLY Mean?
The term "man-up" has many different meanings in our society today. If for the meaning you look to Hollywood, the mainstream media,...
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mbkastleman
- Oct 23, 2020
With Porn Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing—Honesty is EVERYTHING!
LYING was a HUGE part of my addiction years and early recovery. There were many "layers" to my lies. Some were obvious, but many were at...
mbkastleman
- Oct 23, 2020
What "Choices" do you have in Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma?
For much of my life, I lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "It is what it is," and...
mbkastleman
- Oct 6, 2020
In Porn Addiction or Betrayal Trauma—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?
There can be a BIG difference between "religiosity" and "spirituality." When it's unhealthy, religiosity can create a significant WALL...
mbkastleman
- Oct 3, 2020
If Porn Addiction is Under Control and Betrayal Trauma is Healing Well—are Boundaries Still Needed?
I have emphasized many times in these blog articles and constantly with my clients, just how critical HEALTHY BOUNDARIES are to porn...
mbkastleman
- Sep 8, 2020
If Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma have put your Marriage in Crisis—Can it be Saved?
Porn addiction and Betrayal Trauma plunge a marriage into pain and chaos! After years of "negative relationship patterns," we get to a...
mbkastleman
- Sep 1, 2020
Avoiding Pain will actually make your Addiction Worse and Keep You Stuck in Betrayal Trauma!
It's normal for all of us to try to avoid pain when we can—that tendency is built into the very structure of the human brain. However,...
mbkastleman
- Aug 27, 2020
The Difference Between "Healthy Attraction" and "Porn/Sex Addiction"
By Divine Design we are built to feel natural, healthy attraction for other human beings. In fact, there is more real estate in the brain...
mbkastleman
- Aug 18, 2020
Pornography Addiction Relapse—the Impact on Your Marriage and Breaking Free from the "Relapse Cycle"
What happens when you face a "Pornography Addiction Relapse"? The Fallout of Relapse— For the Porn Addict: Hopelessness, shame,...
mbkastleman
- Aug 11, 2020
Stop Being a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Let Her Focus on Healing from Betrayal Trauma!
It's very easy to lose track of your own recovery from porn addiction and try to CONTROL your spouse's healing. To be successful in your...
mbkastleman
- Aug 10, 2020
Break Out of Being a "Victim" to His Porn Addiction!
Your husband's porn addiction can easily plunge you into the "Victim Trap"! In this confusing and hopeless place, it's virtually...
mbkastleman
- Jul 28, 2020
Can I Regain My Wife's Trust? How Can I Dare to Trust Her?
There are two big concerns that often occupy the thoughts of married men who are in recovery from porn and sex addiction— Can I ever...
mbkastleman
- Jul 14, 2020
Marriage Relationships with "Boundaries" LAST—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
For your marriage relationship to not only survive but most importantly THRIVE, you must have healthy "boundaries"! This is certainly...
mbkastleman
- Feb 19, 2020
Porn Addiction and the "Funnel"—Why Do Good LDS Men Get Pulled into Porn?
LDS men trapped in porn suffer immense SHAME! Why is this true and HOW can they break free from porn addiction?
mbkastleman
- Feb 17, 2020
Healing Your Marriage After Porn—Conflict is NOT the Enemy!
Porn addiction can devastate a marriage! Yet, there IS healing after porn! In this process, CONFLICT is a given and is NOT the enemy!
mbkastleman
- Feb 16, 2020
Is Your Porn Addicted Husband "Gaslighting" You?
A husband addicted to porn will often go to great lengths to keep his use hidden from his wife, including using "gaslighting."
mbkastleman
- Feb 13, 2020
Porn Use Can "Cripple" Your Willpower!
Willpower alone does NOT overcome porn addiction! This is true because porn use "rewires" the brain. It's not about "will"—it's "SKILL."
mbkastleman
- Feb 12, 2020
Pornography Viewing is NOT as Private as You May Think!
Porn addiction rewires the brain and a brain on porn doesn't want to be confused by the "facts." The facts are, is is NOT private!
mbkastleman
- Feb 5, 2020
His Porn Addiction and Her Betrayal Trauma—Part Three
When there's betrayal trauma in marriage due to one spouse's porn addiction, setting "sexual boundaries" is critical to the healing process.
mbkastleman
- Feb 4, 2020
His Porn Addiction and her Betrayal Trauma—Part Two
Betrayal Trauma has a massive impact on a woman’s sense of self-esteem and worth: Personal inadequacy (physical, emotional and sexual)—“I’ll